There's one on there now who's complaining because his drummer is making decisions about song choices. Drummer is a founding member. but the OP thinks he is one because he was there second, and it doesn't sound like anyone else is stepping up to do any musical direction to speak of, but the OP is upset because someone is trying to organize them in a way that might actually result in gigs and doesn't like the OP's song suggestions. It's not clear if anyone else cares about any of this.
Seems like the OP is just wanting to be in charge, or at least that's how it sounds to me, but the real root of the problem is not clear despite multiple posts. They need to talk. Why does nobody talk?