yes, you do have a great voice and its a shame you don't sing as much. bands are a lot more complicated than i realized. is it possible to just to do your own thing? maybe take a leap and see if you can fly.Nah, I've got enough to worry about managing my own band. He can do what he wants; what happens with me in situations like this is that I begin to see what kind of writing is on the wall and my enthusiasm wanes. I have reason to suspect he won't be in town for that much longer, so there's little point in worrying about the future of this band. But I do very much enjoy playing with him and with the other musicians he's brought together. On stage this is the most fun band I've ever been in.
The point here is we're not talking about someone who is inexperienced. Yes, he's a good sideman, and he has been a sideman to some great acts through the years, so there's no questioning that. He's allowed to have his own band if he wants to and I'm allowed to make my own choices about how involved I want to be.
I think that as a leader he makes some questionable decisions; many of them affect me. He's not a great singer. I sing well, but he doesn't take advantage of that- most don't, because they feel threatened by it. I understand that but I had higher hopes for this than what I ended up getting because he didn't initially strike me as the type to be so ego-involved. He could have polished this act up quite a bit and attracted a lot of cheap applause by adding more songs for me, but he didn't do it.
I also have several decades of experience arranging vocals but he prefers to arrange his own backing vocals and does just as you'd imagine a non-singer would. There's no creative collaboration with his original material, he has it in his head how he wants it and that's how it is. My job as his sideman is to give him what he wants. I may disagree with some of his decisions but they aren't hills to die on. It's what he wants, and that's ok. But it's more years I don't have to waste not singing when I really don't have that many years left to get that out there. So I'm not going to sit around forever but I'm going to have to create my own opportunity there if I want it to happen.